Family drama
Politics, Christmas, Easter, Weddings, Anniversaries. All good until it’s evil. The evil that’s called family drama. After the recent political circus, many will now gather for the end of the year festivities. For all people’s good intentions, drama happens at the Christmas table, and occasionally I get booked to read the cards for this question:
How do I exact justice in the drama that just happened, without compromising the general family relations?
I liked the cards I got for one such instance: the Hermit, the Popess, and Death from Baka Tarot above.
I simply said: ‘make your cuts in accordance.’
Why ‘in accordance?’
Because you can’t just cut your family members out of your life – or close friends, for that matter – unless they do something unacceptable.
But as most families have a talent for cornering each other to the point of high confrontation, especially over elections or the Christmas duck, what do you do?
Well, first you seek to understand people’s motives, Hermit style, then you take out your book of records, Popess style. You start counting: how many times have they done this? If one time too many, then cut. Cut, but still with a measure of discretion, for if you want to continue to have a relationship with the family, then you must make that cut in accordance, with discretion and a great deal of wisdom. You must consider what is invested in the relationship and assess its fragility or robustness.
Naturally, if the unforgivable happens, then you also just cut, yet without having to think about it. You take a step back, and like the Hermit here who is lit from both sides, front and back for good measure, you enter your own private room. You close the door and divine by the fish bone on the wall. If the disagreement was informed by the ‘small print’ to the point of conflict, you now make it a headline. Cut. First the one head, and then the other.
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Baka Tarot
Let’s just call this one ‘a book of many round edges…
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