The problem is called grief
‘When you move slowly and then all of a sudden into the dark, you grieve.’ That’s it. That’s the line I delivered once. ‘How?’ the person wanted to know, expecting me to say something about how grief can be vanquished, or dispersed like the clouds. ‘You grieve by staying with the pain. It’s your staying-power that gets you out of the rut, not banishing.’
Now, this is not easy to understand, as most internalize their grievance precisely as a concept, but if one gets past that, to seeing grief as more than a concept that merely has to do with feeling or emotion – all rather heavily constructed – then we’re getting somewhere.
When it’s not about predicting the stock market fluctuations, I get questions about what people think are problems. It’s a problem when you get laid off. It’s a problem when your intended suddenly marries another. It’s a problem when you can’t communicate with your children, and it’s a problem when others don’t respect your work, or when your talent isn’t recognized. It’s also a problem when you get cursed, or when you have to suffer others’ envy, jealousy, and hatred of what you do. Even when other people’s problem with you may actually be entirely their problem, the truth is that most are affected, and consequently tend to turn these other people’s problems into their personal problems. Bad idea.
I read cards for all of it. But one of the things that occurs to me is that when people take the step and seek the fortuneteller’s advice regarding any problem, what you can be sure of is this: in addition to the problem, whatever problem, you’ll have grief on your table. Grievance follows problems. How do you deal with it? How do you move a grieving heart? How do you distinguish between offering sympathy and offering strong encouragement? They are not the same.
My own strategy is to deliver what I see in the cards, not what I imagine will help the other to hear… because words have consolation power. They do. But unless the words match what is actually the case, they are worthless. I try to not inflict more grievance on a grieving person with words whose purpose is not clear.
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Cards: A Helium Poet Lenormand, second edition.
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A Helium Poet Lenormand
Acrobatic
Hermetic
Erotic
Literally
Intuitive
Uniquely
Miraculous
Punningly
Occult &
Erratically
Traditional
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